[{"@context":"http:\/\/schema.org\/","@type":"Article","@id":"https:\/\/sevgilibebek.com\/vaka-incelemesi-yapiyor-gibi-gorunmek\/#Article","mainEntityOfPage":"https:\/\/sevgilibebek.com\/vaka-incelemesi-yapiyor-gibi-gorunmek\/","headline":"Vaka \u0130ncelemesi: Yap\u0131yor Gibi G\u00f6r\u00fcnmek","name":"Vaka \u0130ncelemesi: Yap\u0131yor Gibi G\u00f6r\u00fcnmek","description":"Ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z \u00e7a\u011f\u0131n en b\u00fcy\u00fck \u00f6zelli\u011fi san\u0131r\u0131m h\u0131z\u0131 ve bizler bu h\u0131za ayak uydurmak i\u00e7in giderek hayat\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 daha yo\u011fun ya\u015famak zorunday\u0131z sanki. Hangimiz g\u00fcn i\u00e7inde baz\u0131 i\u015flerimizi yeti\u015ftirememi\u015f olmaktan yak\u0131nm\u0131yoruz ki? Modern toplumun \u00f6n\u00fcm\u00fcze koydu\u011fu bu<a class=\"moretag\" href=\"https:\/\/sevgilibebek.com\/vaka-incelemesi-yapiyor-gibi-gorunmek\/\"> Devam\u0131n\u0131 oku&hellip;<\/a>","datePublished":"2020-12-19","dateModified":"2020-12-19","author":{"@type":"Person","@id":"https:\/\/sevgilibebek.com\/author\/3\/#Person","name":"Sevgili Bebek","url":"https:\/\/sevgilibebek.com\/author\/3\/","image":{"@type":"ImageObject","@id":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/2916d3a243921c20e926d04a237431c8?s=96&d=mm&r=g","url":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/2916d3a243921c20e926d04a237431c8?s=96&d=mm&r=g","height":96,"width":96}},"publisher":{"@type":"Organization","name":"Sevgili Bebek","logo":{"@type":"ImageObject","@id":"https:\/\/sevgilibebek.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/06\/cropped-sbikon.jpg","url":"https:\/\/sevgilibebek.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/06\/cropped-sbikon.jpg","width":600,"height":60}},"image":{"@type":"ImageObject","@id":"https:\/\/sevgilibebek.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/11\/me\u015fgulanne.jpg","url":"https:\/\/sevgilibebek.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/11\/me\u015fgulanne.jpg","height":720,"width":1440},"url":"https:\/\/sevgilibebek.com\/vaka-incelemesi-yapiyor-gibi-gorunmek\/","about":["Ebeveyn &amp; Aile"],"wordCount":1299,"keywords":["2 ya\u015f sendromu","24 ayl\u0131k bebek","anne","bebek"],"articleBody":"Ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z \u00e7a\u011f\u0131n en b\u00fcy\u00fck \u00f6zelli\u011fi san\u0131r\u0131m h\u0131z\u0131 ve bizler bu h\u0131za ayak uydurmak i\u00e7in giderek hayat\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 daha yo\u011fun ya\u015famak zorunday\u0131z sanki. Hangimiz g\u00fcn i\u00e7inde baz\u0131 i\u015flerimizi yeti\u015ftirememi\u015f olmaktan yak\u0131nm\u0131yoruz ki?Modern toplumun \u00f6n\u00fcm\u00fcze koydu\u011fu bu h\u0131z olgusu ya\u015fam\u0131m\u0131zda bizi adeta sar\u0131p sarmalam\u0131\u015f g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcyor. Bu h\u0131zl\u0131 ya\u015fama ayak uydurmak i\u00e7inse ister istemez hepimiz bir anda birden fazla i\u015fle u\u011fra\u015fmak zorunda b\u0131rak\u0131l\u0131yoruz. Benim tabirimle \u00e7o\u011fu zaman da baz\u0131 i\u015fleri yap\u0131yor gibi g\u00f6r\u00fcnmekle yetiniyoruz. Sizler ile payla\u015fmak istedi\u011fim vaka da b\u00f6yle bir temel soruna parmak bas\u0131yor.Ki\u015filerin isimleri her zaman yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131m gibi benim taraf\u0131mdan de\u011fi\u015ftirilmi\u015ftir.Anne Emine Han\u0131m 28 ya\u015f\u0131nda 3 y\u0131ll\u0131k evli gen\u00e7 bir kad\u0131nd\u0131r. K\u0131z\u0131 Fulya ise 24 ayl\u0131k bebek \u00f6l\u00e7\u00fclerine g\u00f6re hem boy hem kiloda olduk\u00e7a ufak tefek bir bebektir.Emine Han\u0131m titiz bir ev kad\u0131n\u0131d\u0131r ve bu titizli\u011fi ile de\u00a0gurur duymaktad\u0131r. Olay\u0131n oldu\u011fu g\u00fcne gidelim dilerseniz. Fulya odas\u0131nda oyuncaklar\u0131n\u0131 da\u011f\u0131tm\u0131\u015f bir yandan yap\u0131 ta\u015flar\u0131 di\u011fer yandan bebekleri ve evcilik e\u015fyalar\u0131 karma\u015fas\u0131nda oyalanmaktad\u0131r. Emine Han\u0131m ise adeta y\u0131ld\u0131r\u0131m h\u0131z\u0131yla bir yandan evi temizlerken di\u011fer yandan ak\u015fama gelecek misafirleri i\u00e7in at\u0131\u015ft\u0131rmal\u0131k ikramlar haz\u0131rlamaktad\u0131r.Mutfaktan gelen elektrikli kar\u0131\u015ft\u0131r\u0131c\u0131 sesini duyan Fulya bebek ko\u015fa ko\u015fa mutfa\u011fa girer ve ba\u011f\u0131ra \u00e7a\u011f\u0131ra \u201cBen de, ben de!\u201d diye annesinin etraf\u0131nda turlamaya ba\u015flar.Emine han\u0131m bir an evvel \u00e7\u0131rpmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131 keki f\u0131r\u0131na yerle\u015ftirmek tela\u015f\u0131 i\u00e7inde Fulya\u2019n\u0131n \u201cBen de kar\u0131\u015ft\u0131ray\u0131m biraz\u201d iste\u011fine \u00f6ncesinde pek y\u00fcz vermese de sonra Fulya\u2019n\u0131n inat etti\u011fini g\u00f6r\u00fcnce eline bir ka\u015f\u0131k vererek bebe\u011fin ka\u015f\u0131k tutan elini \u00fcsten kavrar ve kek hamurunun i\u00e7ine ka\u015f\u0131\u011f\u0131 \u00f6ylesine h\u0131zla bir sokup \u00e7\u0131kararak \u201cAman da ne g\u00fczel \u00e7\u0131rpm\u0131\u015f benim k\u0131z\u0131m, haydi git bakal\u0131m bebe\u011fin uyanm\u0131\u015f m\u0131 bak.\u201d diyerek \u00e7ocu\u011fu a\u00e7\u0131k\u00e7a ba\u015f\u0131ndan atmaya y\u00f6nelir.Fulya bebek yar\u0131m yar\u0131m konu\u015fmas\u0131yla annesine \u201cKuru \u00fcz\u00fcm, kuru \u00fcz\u00fcm\u201d dese de Emine han\u0131m \u201cHay\u0131r bu kuru \u00fcz\u00fcml\u00fc kek de\u011fil tamam m\u0131? \u201cdiyerek olay\u0131 ge\u00e7i\u015ftirir. Oysa Fulya kuru \u00fcz\u00fcm\u00fc at\u0131\u015ft\u0131rmal\u0131k olarak da istemi\u015ftir ama maalesef Emine Han\u0131m normal \u015fartlar alt\u0131nda sevinerek kan yapar diye verebilece\u011fi bir avu\u00e7 kuru \u00fcz\u00fcm\u00fc k\u0131z\u0131n\u0131n ne istedi\u011fini yo\u011funlu\u011fundan dolay\u0131 anlamad\u0131\u011f\u0131ndan ge\u00e7i\u015ftirmi\u015ftir. Fulya Bebek biraz sonra annesine d\u00f6nerek \u201cBen al\u0131y\u0131m\u201d dedi\u011finde de Emine han\u0131m a\u00e7\u0131k\u00e7as\u0131 ne oldu\u011funu Fulya\u2019n\u0131n ne alaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 anlamam\u0131\u015ft\u0131r ve a\u00e7\u0131k\u00e7as\u0131 o an i\u00e7in bu pek de \u00f6nemli g\u00f6r\u00fcnmemi\u015ftir. \u201c\u0130yi peki al ne alacaksan \u201cdiyerek kendisini rahat b\u0131rakmas\u0131n\u0131 ummu\u015ftur.\u0130\u00e7ine kabartma tozu koydu\u011fu keki son \u00e7\u0131rpmalar\u0131 yap\u0131p f\u0131r\u0131na yerle\u015ftirme tela\u015f\u0131ndad\u0131r, \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc daha Fulya\u2019ya da banyo yapt\u0131racakt\u0131r.\u0130\u015fte tam bunlar\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcrken Fulya annesinden g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc taklit ederek onun her zaman \u00fczerine \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131\u011f\u0131 mutfak iskemlesine \u00e7\u0131karak annesinin tam arkas\u0131ndaki tezgah\u0131n \u00fczerinde duran kuru \u00fcz\u00fcm kavanozuna eri\u015fmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131rken olanlar olur. Kavanoz ufak elleri tam kavrayamad\u0131\u011f\u0131 i\u00e7in Fulya\u2019n\u0131n elinden kayarak mutfak tezgah\u0131 \u00fczerinden yere d\u00fc\u015ferek tuzla buz olmu\u015ftur. Korkuyla arkas\u0131n\u0131 d\u00f6nen Emine Han\u0131m da donmu\u015f kalm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Bir an ge\u00e7tikten sonra \u201cFulya sen ben \u00f6ld\u00fcreceksin vallahi, k\u0131p\u0131rdama oradan bak \u00e7ok k\u0131zd\u0131m o camlar oram\u0131za buram\u0131za batmadan temizleyeyim hemen\u201d diye \u00f6fkeyle ba\u011f\u0131rarak do\u011fruca elektrikli s\u00fcp\u00fcrgeyi almaya gider.Bundan sonras\u0131 bilindik hikaye, Emine Han\u0131m ba\u011f\u0131ra \u00e7a\u011f\u0131ra s\u00f6ylenerek ortal\u0131\u011f\u0131 temizler; Fulya tezgah\u0131n \u00fcst\u00fcnde korkmu\u015f sinmi\u015f a\u011flamakl\u0131 annesini seyreder.\u00c7o\u011funuz &#8220;Eh s\u0131radan k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck \u00e7ocuk yaramazl\u0131\u011f\u0131&#8230;&#8221; diyeceksiniz belki de ama de\u011fil sevgili okurlar. Size anlatt\u0131\u011f\u0131m olayda dikkatinizi \u00e7ekmek istedi\u011fim nokta acele ile i\u015f yaparken alg\u0131lar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 \u00e7evreye kapad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z ve olay\u0131 idare etmeye y\u00f6nelik davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131m\u0131zd\u0131r. Yaz\u0131n\u0131n ba\u015fl\u0131\u011f\u0131nda belirtti\u011fim gibi baz\u0131 \u015feyleri yapar g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcyoruz aynen Emine Han\u0131m\u2019\u0131n kek yaparken Fulya ile ilgileniyor g\u00f6r\u00fcnd\u00fc\u011f\u00fc gibi. Oysa Emine Han\u0131m Fulya\u2019y\u0131 can kula\u011f\u0131 ile dinlemi\u015f olsayd\u0131 onun kuru \u00fcz\u00fcm\u00fc ben al\u0131r\u0131m dedi\u011fini anlayacakt\u0131 ve belki de o zaman \u201cDur ben sana bir avu\u00e7 vereyim.\u201d diyecekti. Bizim hikayemizde anlam\u0131\u015f gibi g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcp \u201c\u0130yi peki al ne alacaksan\u201d deyip \u00e7ocu\u011fu o an i\u00e7in devre d\u0131\u015f\u0131 b\u0131rakmaya odakland\u0131\u011f\u0131 i\u00e7in \u201cFulya da 2 ya\u015f sendromuna has olan her \u015feyi kendi yapma iste\u011fi do\u011frultusunda tezgaha \u00e7\u0131k\u0131vermi\u015fti kontrols\u00fczce.Ben de olduk\u00e7a hareketli bir erkek \u00e7ocuk b\u00fcy\u00fctt\u00fcm, ve her daim \u00e7al\u0131\u015fan bir anneydim, ama inan\u0131n ev i\u015fleri konusunda asla kendi annem gibi titiz olmad\u0131m olamad\u0131m. Ben sevgili babaannemin bir s\u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc prensip edinmi\u015ftim: \u201cAk olmazsa pak olsun\u201d. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc i\u015ften geldikten sonra en \u00f6nemli i\u015fim o\u011flumdu. Evim da\u011f\u0131n\u0131k olabilirdi, \u201cBuras\u0131 ya\u015fan\u0131lan bir yuva\u201d derdim annem evimizle ilgili bir ele\u015ftiri getirdi\u011finde.Y\u0131llar sonra sevgili okulda\u015f\u0131m ve a\u011fabeyim Prof Dr. Acar Balta\u015f\u2019\u0131n Ebeveynlere \u00d6\u011f\u00fctler adl\u0131 kitab\u0131n\u0131 okurken onun verdi\u011fi \u00f6\u011f\u00fctler aras\u0131nda bir \u00f6\u011f\u00fct benim bu felsefemi ta\u00e7land\u0131r\u0131yordu sanki: \u201c\u00c7ocu\u011funuz b\u00fcy\u00fcd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnde evinizin ne kadar temiz oldu\u011funu de\u011fil, sizin onunla ne kadar ilgilendi\u011finizi hat\u0131rlayacakt\u0131r\u201dEvet bu s\u00f6z \u00e7ok ama \u00e7ok do\u011fru. Hayat\u0131n o mucizevi ilk 5 y\u0131l\u0131nda evinizin camlar\u0131 veya perdelerinizin \u00fct\u00fcs\u00fc de\u011fil, \u00e7ocu\u011funuzun keyfi ve sizinle payla\u015f\u0131mlar\u0131 \u00f6nceli\u011finiz olmal\u0131.Sevgili ebeveynler asl\u0131nda i\u015fe babalar\u0131 da katmam gerekti\u011fini biliyorum \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc ayn\u0131 affedilmez hatay\u0131 onlar da gazetelerini okurken veya TV izlerken bol bol yap\u0131yorlar. Ufakl\u0131klar ile ilgileniyormu\u015f gibi yap\u0131yorlar ama asl\u0131nda \u00e7ocu\u011fa odaklanm\u0131yorlar.Size ba\u015fka bir s\u0131r vereyim, maalesef \u00f6zellikle k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck \u00e7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n sezgileri bizlerden \u00e7ok daha a\u00e7\u0131k oldu\u011fundan onlar bizim kendileriyle ger\u00e7ekten ilgilenip ilgilenmedi\u011fimizi \u00e7ok ama \u00e7ok net anlayabiliyorlar, yani demem o ki asl\u0131na bakacak olursak bizler yine kendi kendimizi kand\u0131r\u0131yoruz.\u00a0K\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck \u00e7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131z hayat\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n temeli, onlarla zaman ge\u00e7irirken kendimizi onlara uyumland\u0131rmam\u0131z beynimizle ve y\u00fcre\u011fimizle birlikte olmam\u0131z gerekti\u011finin bilincinde olal\u0131m derim.Sa\u011fl\u0131cakla kal\u0131n.Fatma Nur Olcay\u0130lk Yay\u0131n Tarihi: 7 Kas\u0131m 2015 @ 19:33"},{"@context":"http:\/\/schema.org\/","@type":"BreadcrumbList","itemListElement":[{"@type":"ListItem","position":1,"item":{"@id":"https:\/\/sevgilibebek.com\/#breadcrumbitem","name":"Sevgili Bebek"}},{"@type":"ListItem","position":2,"item":{"@id":"https:\/\/sevgilibebek.com\/vaka-incelemesi-yapiyor-gibi-gorunmek\/#breadcrumbitem","name":"Vaka \u0130ncelemesi: Yap\u0131yor Gibi G\u00f6r\u00fcnmek"}}]}]