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Peki siz \u201cAnne\/Baba ben sana k\u00fcst\u00fcm\u201d diyen<a class=\"moretag\" href=\"https:\/\/sevgilibebek.com\/cocugunuza-kusmeyin\/\"> Devam\u0131n\u0131 oku&hellip;<\/a>","datePublished":"2016-10-05","dateModified":"2017-06-10","author":{"@type":"Person","@id":"https:\/\/sevgilibebek.com\/author\/cocuk-gelisim-uzmani-ve-aile-danismani-emine-ergun\/#Person","name":"\u00c7ocuk Gl\u015f. Uzm. ve Aile Dn\u015f. Emine Erg\u00fcn","url":"https:\/\/sevgilibebek.com\/author\/cocuk-gelisim-uzmani-ve-aile-danismani-emine-ergun\/","image":{"@type":"ImageObject","@id":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/b69ced9de5870d14a2a09e36d356f704?s=96&d=mm&r=g","url":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/b69ced9de5870d14a2a09e36d356f704?s=96&d=mm&r=g","height":96,"width":96}},"publisher":{"@type":"Organization","name":"Sevgili Bebek","logo":{"@type":"ImageObject","@id":"https:\/\/sevgilibebek.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/06\/cropped-sbikon.jpg","url":"https:\/\/sevgilibebek.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/06\/cropped-sbikon.jpg","width":600,"height":60}},"image":{"@type":"ImageObject","@id":"https:\/\/sevgilibebek.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/10\/shutterstock_484130065.jpg","url":"https:\/\/sevgilibebek.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/10\/shutterstock_484130065.jpg","height":667,"width":1000},"url":"https:\/\/sevgilibebek.com\/cocugunuza-kusmeyin\/","about":["Zihinsel &amp; Ruhsal Geli\u015fim"],"wordCount":427,"keywords":["\u00c7ocuk Psikolojisi","\u00c7ocuk ve anne","\u00c7ocuk ve baba","\u00c7ocuklarda k\u00fcsme","K\u00fcsmek","K\u00fcst\u00fcm"],"articleBody":"\u00c7ocuklar \u00f6zellikle 2-4 ya\u015f aras\u0131nda \u201cK\u00fcst\u00fcm\u201d ifadesini s\u0131kl\u0131kla kullanmaya ba\u015flarlar. \u0130stekleri yerine getirilmedi\u011finde, onlarla oyun oynamad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131zda \u201cK\u00fcst\u00fcm anne\u201d ya da \u201cBaba sana k\u00fcst\u00fcm\u201d gibi ifadeler kullanarak tepkilerini g\u00f6sterirler.Peki siz \u201cAnne\/Baba ben sana k\u00fcst\u00fcm\u201d diyen \u00e7ocu\u011funuza siz nas\u0131l tepki vermelisiniz?Genellikle anne babalar, \u201cK\u00fcsersen k\u00fcs, ben de sana k\u00fcst\u00fcm\u201d diyerek, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131 bu davran\u0131\u015ftan vazge\u00e7irmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131rlar.Bir \u00e7ocuk, annesi babas\u0131 ona k\u00fcs\u00fcnce ne d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr, ne hisseder?Demek ki, ho\u015flanmad\u0131\u011f\u0131m durumlarda k\u00fcsebilirim, baksana annem babam da k\u00fcs\u00fcyor, o zaman k\u00fcsmek do\u011fru bir davran\u0131\u015f.Okuldaki arkada\u015f\u0131m Ahmet de bana k\u00fcs\u00fcyor, annem babam da k\u00fcs\u00fcyor. O zaman annem ve babam asl\u0131nda benim arkada\u015f\u0131m gibi. O halde onlar\u0131n her dedi\u011fini yapmak zorunda de\u011filim.Evde, okulda, misafirli\u011fe gidince ho\u015flanmad\u0131\u011f\u0131m bir durumla kar\u015f\u0131la\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131mda hemen k\u00fcsebilirim. Bu, i\u015fe yarayan bir y\u00f6ntem.Bunlara sebep olmamak ad\u0131na, anne baba \u00e7ocu\u011funa k\u00fcsmemelidir. K\u00fcsmek yerine, \u00e7ocu\u011fun o anki duygular\u0131n\u0131 anlamaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmal\u0131, hatta ona adeta dublaj yapmal\u0131d\u0131r.\u201cSan\u0131r\u0131m sen bir \u015feye k\u0131zd\u0131n, k\u00fcsersen seni k\u0131zd\u0131ran \u015feyin ne oldu\u011funu bilemem, benimle konu\u015fmak ister misin\u201d \u015feklindeki yakla\u015f\u0131m daha sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 olacakt\u0131r.Bu yakla\u015f\u0131ma ra\u011fmen, \u00e7ocuk hala k\u00fcsmeye devam ediyorsa \u201c\u015eu anda konu\u015fmak istemiyorsun san\u0131r\u0131m, konu\u015fmak istedi\u011finde ben haz\u0131r\u0131m, konu\u015fabiliriz\u201d denebilir.Bu konu\u015fmalar s\u0131ras\u0131nda \u00e7ocu\u011fun g\u00f6z hizas\u0131na inmek, onunla g\u00f6z konta\u011f\u0131 kurmak \u00e7ok \u00f6nemlidir. \u00c7ocuk kendini bask\u0131 alt\u0131nda de\u011fil, g\u00fcvende hissetmelidir.Aradan bir s\u00fcre ge\u00e7tikten sonra \u00e7ocuk anne babaya yana\u015f\u0131r ve konu\u015fmak isterse \u201cHani bize k\u00fcsm\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcn, bizimle konu\u015fma o zaman\u201d gibi olumsuz bir ifade yerine \u201cSeni dinliyorum, gel konu\u015fal\u0131m\u201d gibi olumlu bir ifade kullan\u0131lmal\u0131d\u0131r.Bu konu\u015fma s\u0131ras\u0131nda \u00e7ocu\u011fa k\u00fcsmenin ne kadar yanl\u0131\u015f bir davran\u0131\u015f oldu\u011fu ile ilgili nasihatlar vermek yerine, duygular\u0131n\u0131 ifade etmesine f\u0131rsat verilmelidir."},{"@context":"http:\/\/schema.org\/","@type":"BreadcrumbList","itemListElement":[{"@type":"ListItem","position":1,"item":{"@id":"https:\/\/sevgilibebek.com\/#breadcrumbitem","name":"Sevgili Bebek"}},{"@type":"ListItem","position":2,"item":{"@id":"https:\/\/sevgilibebek.com\/cocugunuza-kusmeyin\/#breadcrumbitem","name":"\u00c7ocu\u011funuza K\u00fcsmeyin"}}]}]