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Size anlataca\u011f\u0131m olay Kurban Bayram\u0131’n\u0131n 2. g\u00fcn\u00fc ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131m ve Devam\u0131n\u0131 oku…<\/a>","datePublished":"2021-10-27","dateModified":"2021-10-27","author":{"@type":"Person","@id":"https:\/\/sevgilibebek.com\/author\/nurolcay\/#Person","name":"Fatma Nur Olcay","url":"https:\/\/sevgilibebek.com\/author\/nurolcay\/","image":{"@type":"ImageObject","@id":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/1fd49f668f460136f629e7a2366df51a?s=96&d=mm&r=g","url":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/1fd49f668f460136f629e7a2366df51a?s=96&d=mm&r=g","height":96,"width":96}},"publisher":{"@type":"Organization","name":"Sevgili Bebek","logo":{"@type":"ImageObject","@id":"https:\/\/sevgilibebek.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/06\/cropped-sbikon.jpg","url":"https:\/\/sevgilibebek.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/06\/cropped-sbikon.jpg","width":600,"height":60}},"image":{"@type":"ImageObject","@id":"https:\/\/sevgilibebek.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/09\/o-SHY-TODDLER-facebook.jpg","url":"https:\/\/sevgilibebek.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/09\/o-SHY-TODDLER-facebook.jpg","height":720,"width":1440},"url":"https:\/\/sevgilibebek.com\/bir-vaka-kucuk-cocugunuzu-nasil-hircinlastirirsiniz\/","about":["Ebeveyn & Aile"],"wordCount":1127,"keywords":["bayram","bebek","\u00e7ocuk","\u00e7ocuk davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131","misafir"],"articleBody":"Biliyorum ba\u015fl\u0131k \u00e7ok sa\u00e7ma geldi hangi ebeveyn ister ki bebe\u011fini h\u0131r\u00e7\u0131nla\u015ft\u0131rmak diyeceksiniz ama gel g\u00f6r ki g\u00f6zlemledi\u011fim sahneler ne yaz\u0131k ki s\u00fcrekli bu do\u011frultuda olaylardan olu\u015fuyor.Size anlataca\u011f\u0131m olay Kurban Bayram\u0131’n\u0131n 2. g\u00fcn\u00fc ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131m ve hani a\u015fa\u011f\u0131ya t\u00fck\u00fcrsem sakal yukar\u0131s\u0131 b\u0131y\u0131k misali nas\u0131l davranaca\u011f\u0131m\u0131 bilemedi\u011fim bir olay. 3 ya\u015f\u0131n\u0131 biraz ge\u00e7mi\u015f \u015eule bebek annesi, babas\u0131, babaanne ve dedesiyle bayram ziyaretinde, oda olduk\u00e7a kalabal\u0131k.\u015eule bir dolu tan\u0131mad\u0131\u011f\u0131 yabanc\u0131ya kar\u015f\u0131 zaten olduk\u00e7a \u00fcrkek, annesinin dizi dibine sinmi\u015f durumda oturuyor ama s\u00fcrekli bacaklar\u0131n\u0131 iki yana sall\u0131yor a\u00e7\u0131yor kap\u0131yor. V\u00fccut dili \u00e7ok s\u0131k\u0131ld\u0131m diyor alenen. Ev sahibi Zeliha Han\u0131m \u015eule\u2019ye laf atmakta gecikmiyor: \u201cAman bu ne kadar g\u00fczel bir elbise \u015eulecim, sen onu bana ver bir de ben giyeyim \u00e7ok be\u011fendim!\u201d \u015eule g\u00f6zleri kocaman a\u00e7\u0131lm\u0131\u015f bir \u015fekilde \u00a0\u201cHay\u0131r!\u201d \u0131 bas\u0131yor. Babaanne oradan derhal lafa atl\u0131yor: \u201cBug\u00fcnlerde her \u015feye hay\u0131r diyor. Bu \u00e7ocu\u011fun hay\u0131r\u2019\u0131 bitmiyor vallahi!\u201d \u015eule bu kez iki kez daha y\u00fcksek perdeden “Hay\u0131r hay\u0131r!” diyor kafas\u0131n\u0131 iki yana h\u0131zl\u0131ca sallamaya ba\u015flay\u0131p hay\u0131r, hay\u0131r, hay\u0131r diye melodik bir ses tonuyla kendince bir oyun yaratmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131yor.Tam o s\u0131rada \u015feker ikram\u0131 yap\u0131l\u0131yor. \u015eule \u00e7ikolataya bay\u0131l\u0131yor. Annesi Dilek han\u0131m derhal \u201c\u015eule bir tane alacaks\u0131n ve \u00e7antama koyaca\u011f\u0131z sonra tamam m\u0131?\u201d diye f\u0131rl\u0131yor. Ama o da ne, dedesi Ahmet Bey kar\u015f\u0131 koltuktan laf at\u0131yor \u015eule\u2019ye \u201cMerak etme bak benim ki f\u0131nd\u0131kl\u0131, gel bir \u00f6p\u00fcc\u00fck ver dedene bunu da vereyim sana\u201d Anne Dilek han\u0131m bozulmu\u015f bir y\u00fcz ifadesiyle \u201cBaba l\u00fctfen ya, b\u00fct\u00fcn gece ka\u015f\u0131n\u0131yor sonra\u201d diyerek tepki veriyor. \u015eule bebek kendisine y\u00f6nelen t\u00fcm s\u00f6ylemlere ve ilgi oda\u011f\u0131 olmaktan dolay\u0131 art\u0131k hem \u015f\u0131marmaya hem de h\u0131r\u00e7\u0131nla\u015fmaya ba\u015fl\u0131yor. \u00d6nce koltuktan z\u0131play\u0131p dedeye gidiyor ve iki yana\u011f\u0131ndan okkal\u0131 bir \u00f6p\u00fcyor ve f\u0131nd\u0131kl\u0131 \u00e7ikolatay\u0131 kap\u0131yor yememek s\u00f6z\u00fc vererek. Tam yerine d\u00f6necekken ev sahibinin 20 ya\u015f\u0131ndaki k\u0131z\u0131 Selen Abla taraf\u0131ndan yakalan\u0131yor ve akabinde zorla \u00f6p\u00fcl\u00fcyor. Bu \u00f6p\u00fcc\u00fckle h\u0131r\u00e7\u0131nl\u0131\u011f\u0131 daha da art\u0131yor, “Hay\u0131r!” diye tekrar ba\u011f\u0131r\u0131p yerine gidiyor. Sonra babaanne \u015eefika Han\u0131m saz\u0131 eline al\u0131yor ve misafirlere \u015eule\u2019nin yuvada neler neler yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 anlatmaya bir taraftan da \u201cHaydi babaannecim, s\u00f6yle bize bana son s\u00f6yledi\u011fin \u015fark\u0131y\u0131 ne g\u00fczel s\u00f6yl\u00fcyordun\u201d diye \u015eule\u2019ye bask\u0131 yapmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131yor. \u015eule y\u00fcksek perdeden tekrar \u201cHay\u0131r\u201d\u0131 bas\u0131yor.\u00c7ocu\u011fun y\u00fcz ifadesi art\u0131k h\u0131r\u00e7\u0131nl\u0131k ile k\u0131zg\u0131nl\u0131k aras\u0131nda ve ben a\u011fz\u0131m\u0131 a\u00e7ay\u0131m m\u0131 a\u00e7mayay\u0131m m\u0131 bilemezken ama en az \u015eule kadar sinirlenirken birden akl\u0131ma daha g\u00fczel bir fikir geliyor. Ev sahibi Zeliha Han\u0131m\u2019a Selen ablas\u0131n\u0131n hi\u00e7 bebe\u011fi kalmad\u0131 m\u0131 \u00e7ocukluktan \u015eule\u2019ye verelim de eskiden oyuncaklar nas\u0131lm\u0131\u015f bir g\u00f6rs\u00fcn diyorum. Oyuncak s\u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc duyan \u015eule\u2019nin y\u00fcz\u00fc ayd\u0131nlan\u0131veriyor. Selen hemen i\u00e7eriye gidip bir s\u00fcre sonra elinde bir plastik bebek ile geliyor. \u015eule hemen at\u0131l\u0131yor ama Selen talihsiz bir s\u00f6ylem ile yana\u011f\u0131n\u0131 uzat\u0131p \u201cHaydi bir \u00f6p\u00fcc\u00fck ver de vereyim\u201d diyor ve benim de sabr\u0131m\u0131 ta\u015f\u0131r\u0131yor .\u201dSelencim yapt\u0131klar\u0131m\u0131za kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131k istemeyelim l\u00fctfen\u201d demek zorunda kal\u0131yorum.Neyse ki \u015eule bebe\u011fi sevip oynamaya ba\u015fl\u0131yor ve bebe\u011fin elbiselerini \u00e7\u0131kartmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131rken babaanne tekrar at\u0131l\u0131veriyor \u201cAh ne kadar ay\u0131p her bebe\u011fi eline al\u0131r, almaz b\u00f6yle soyuveriyor. \u00c7ok ay\u0131p yavrum bak giysileriyle kals\u0131n \u00f6yle oyna\u201d. \u0130\u00e7imden “\u00c7ocuk ke\u015ffediyor, neden ay\u0131p olsun \u00f6\u011frendi\u011fi, g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fc bir \u015feyi tekrar ederek giyinme soyunma i\u015flemini egzersiz ediyor; bebe\u011fin \u00fczerinde bundan do\u011fal ne olabilir ki niye kar\u0131\u015f\u0131yorsunuz.” demek istiyorum desem bir t\u00fcrl\u00fc demesem i\u00e7im i\u00e7imi yiyecek kala kal\u0131yorum. Allah’tan \u015eule hi\u00e7 oral\u0131 olmuyor ve devam ediyor oynamaya.Ortal\u0131k tam yat\u0131\u015fm\u0131\u015fken maalesef Zeliha Han\u0131m \u015eule\u2019nin yan\u0131na gidiyor ve \u015eule\u2019ye \u201cBu dantel \u00e7oraplar ne kadar da g\u00fczel hele de pabu\u00e7lar bunlar\u0131 bir g\u00fcn bana verir misin Selen Abla’n da giysin\u201d i\u00e7erikli korkun\u00e7 anlams\u0131z k\u0131\u015fk\u0131rt\u0131c\u0131 bir c\u00fcmle ediveriyor. \u015eule y\u00fcz\u00fcn\u00fc annesinin koltuk alt\u0131na sokup \u015fiddetle “Hay\u0131r!” diye pis pis diye ba\u011f\u0131rmaya ba\u015fl\u0131yor.Evet, sevgili takip\u00e7ilerim, inan\u0131n hepsi ger\u00e7ek ve t\u00fcm bunlar her g\u00fcn y\u00fczlerce evde ya\u015fan\u0131yor. K\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck \u00e7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 anlayamad\u0131\u011f\u0131m nedenler ile sinirlendirmeye ve k\u0131\u015fk\u0131rtmaya bay\u0131l\u0131yoruz sanki. Sonras\u0131nda da onlardan mant\u0131kl\u0131 sakin davran\u0131\u015flar sergilemelerini istiyoruz ya, o daha b\u00fcy\u00fck bir mant\u0131ks\u0131zl\u0131k \u00f6rne\u011fi oluyor.Bu misafirlikte \u015eule\u2019ye hi\u00e7 ili\u015filmeseydi ve ona en ba\u015ftan bir bebek teklif edilseydi k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck k\u0131z bu kadar h\u0131r\u00e7\u0131nla\u015f\u0131p hay\u0131rlar\u0131 ard\u0131 ard\u0131na s\u0131ralar m\u0131yd\u0131 sizce? Evet hakl\u0131s\u0131n\u0131z, bence de hay\u0131r sakin sakin bebe\u011fi ke\u015ffetmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131rd\u0131.Peki, sizce b\u00f6yle davranarak \u00e7ocu\u011fu sevdi\u011fimizi mi san\u0131yoruz? K\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck \u00e7ocuklar\u0131 h\u0131r\u00e7\u0131nla\u015ft\u0131r\u0131p sonras\u0131nda da sakin olmaya davet etmek kadar anlams\u0131z ve gereksiz bir davran\u0131\u015f olmasa gerek. Bu nedenle de sizlerden ricam l\u00fctfen k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck \u00e7ocuklar\u0131 h\u0131r\u00e7\u0131nla\u015ft\u0131rmaya y\u00f6nelik bu tip davran\u0131\u015flardan ve s\u00f6ylemlerden ka\u00e7\u0131nal\u0131m. \u00c7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n diline hay\u0131r s\u00f6zc\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc bizler yerle\u015ftiriyoruz bunu asla unutmayal\u0131m.\u0130lk Yay\u0131n Tarihi: 27 Eyl\u00fcl 2015 @ 21:35"},{"@context":"http:\/\/schema.org\/","@type":"BreadcrumbList","itemListElement":[{"@type":"ListItem","position":1,"item":{"@id":"https:\/\/sevgilibebek.com\/#breadcrumbitem","name":"Sevgili Bebek"}},{"@type":"ListItem","position":2,"item":{"@id":"https:\/\/sevgilibebek.com\/bir-vaka-kucuk-cocugunuzu-nasil-hircinlastirirsiniz\/#breadcrumbitem","name":"Bir Vaka; K\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck \u00c7ocu\u011funuzu Nas\u0131l H\u0131r\u00e7\u0131nla\u015ft\u0131r\u0131rs\u0131n\u0131z?"}}]}]