[{"@context":"http:\/\/schema.org\/","@type":"Article","@id":"https:\/\/sevgilibebek.com\/bebegin-ruhsal-dunyasinda-babanin-islevi\/#Article","mainEntityOfPage":"https:\/\/sevgilibebek.com\/bebegin-ruhsal-dunyasinda-babanin-islevi\/","headline":"Bebe\u011fin Ruhsal D\u00fcnyas\u0131nda Baban\u0131n \u0130\u015flevi","name":"Bebe\u011fin Ruhsal D\u00fcnyas\u0131nda Baban\u0131n \u0130\u015flevi","description":"Bebe\u011fin fiziksel bak\u0131m\u0131 ve ruhsal d\u00fcnyas\u0131nda temel bak\u0131m veren olarak annenin \u00f6nemi elbette tart\u0131\u015f\u0131lmaz ve her zaman \u00fczerinde en \u00e7ok konu\u015fulan , yaz\u0131lan konular\u0131n ba\u015f\u0131nda gelir. Baban\u0131n da rol\u00fc elbette \u00f6nemlidir denilir ve ge\u00e7ilir. \u00d6zellikle<a class=\"moretag\" href=\"https:\/\/sevgilibebek.com\/bebegin-ruhsal-dunyasinda-babanin-islevi\/\"> Devam\u0131n\u0131 oku&hellip;<\/a>","datePublished":"2023-10-27","dateModified":"2023-10-27","author":{"@type":"Person","@id":"https:\/\/sevgilibebek.com\/author\/uzman-psikolog-sezen-erim\/#Person","name":"Uzman Psikolog Sezen Erem","url":"https:\/\/sevgilibebek.com\/author\/uzman-psikolog-sezen-erim\/","image":{"@type":"ImageObject","@id":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/91cb68ef29f94a5fd28d7ae951301107?s=96&d=mm&r=g","url":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/91cb68ef29f94a5fd28d7ae951301107?s=96&d=mm&r=g","height":96,"width":96}},"publisher":{"@type":"Organization","name":"Sevgili Bebek","logo":{"@type":"ImageObject","@id":"https:\/\/sevgilibebek.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/06\/cropped-sbikon.jpg","url":"https:\/\/sevgilibebek.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/06\/cropped-sbikon.jpg","width":600,"height":60}},"image":{"@type":"ImageObject","@id":"https:\/\/sevgilibebek.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/06\/Dad-and-baby-giggling.jpg","url":"https:\/\/sevgilibebek.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/06\/Dad-and-baby-giggling.jpg","height":562,"width":800},"url":"https:\/\/sevgilibebek.com\/bebegin-ruhsal-dunyasinda-babanin-islevi\/","commentCount":"2","about":["Ebeveyn &amp; Aile"],"wordCount":1183,"keywords":["aile dinamikleri","anne baba","anne baba ili\u015fkisi","baba","Baba bebek ili\u015fkisi","Baba olmak","babal\u0131k"],"articleBody":"Bebe\u011fin fiziksel bak\u0131m\u0131 ve ruhsal d\u00fcnyas\u0131nda temel bak\u0131m veren olarak annenin \u00f6nemi elbette tart\u0131\u015f\u0131lmaz ve her zaman \u00fczerinde en \u00e7ok konu\u015fulan , yaz\u0131lan konular\u0131n ba\u015f\u0131nda gelir. Baban\u0131n da rol\u00fc elbette \u00f6nemlidir denilir ve ge\u00e7ilir.\u00d6zellikle g\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fcz toplumunda evliliklerdeki rol ve g\u00fc\u00e7 payla\u015f\u0131m\u0131, kad\u0131n ve erkek rollerindeki de\u011fi\u015fim, geni\u015f aile modelinden \u00e7ekirdek aile modeline ge\u00e7i\u015fle birlikte modern erke\u011fin ailedeki yeri ve babal\u0131k i\u015flevleri giderek karma\u015f\u0131kla\u015fm\u0131\u015f deyim yerindeyse i\u00e7inden \u00e7\u0131k\u0131lmaz bir hal alm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r.Eskinin \u00e7ocu\u011funu uluorta sevmekten, \u00f6pmekten utanan, uyurken seven, sadece har\u00e7l\u0131k ve izin istenen, bebekle sadece uzaktan ilgilenen baba modeli yerini \u00e7ocu\u011fuyla parklarda ko\u015fturan , gerekti\u011finde bebe\u011fin alt\u0131n\u0131 da de\u011fi\u015ftiren yeme\u011fini de yediren, \u00e7ocukla \u00e7ocuk olmaktan gurur duyan, e\u011flenceli ve sevecen baba model alm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r.Yine son d\u00f6neme kadar bebe\u011fin ruhsal d\u00fcnyas\u0131na hakim olan\u0131n sadece annesi ile kurdu\u011fu ili\u015fki oldu\u011fu kabul g\u00f6r\u00fcl\u00fcrd\u00fc, baba adeta bebe\u011fin kural ve yasay\u0131 fark etti\u011fi zamana kadar yok say\u0131l\u0131rd\u0131. Ancak \u015fimdi biliyoruz ki do\u011fumdan hemen sonra bebekle baba aras\u0131nda ger\u00e7ek bir ileti\u015fim ba\u015flar. Hatta bir\u00e7ok \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmada g\u00f6sterildi\u011fi gibi dikkatli g\u00f6zlemleyen ebeveynler de fark ederler ki bebek do\u011fum \u00f6ncesinde bile babas\u0131n\u0131n sesini tan\u0131makta ve tepki vermektedir.Baba-Bebek \u0130li\u015fkisiPeki bu ili\u015fki nas\u0131l kurulmakta ve nas\u0131l geli\u015fmektedir? Annelik her\u015feyden \u00f6nce biyolojiktir, bebek rahme d\u00fc\u015ft\u00fc\u011f\u00fc andan itibaren annenin v\u00fccut kimyas\u0131 de\u011fi\u015fmeye ba\u015flar, g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fc de\u011fi\u015fir, belli bir a\u015famadan sonra bebe\u011fi hissetmeye ba\u015flar yani do\u011fa bir kad\u0131n\u0131n anneye d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015fmesi i\u00e7in her t\u00fcrl\u00fc imkan\u0131 sa\u011flar. Ancak babal\u0131k \u00f6yle de\u011fildir. Baba aday\u0131 sadece bir bebek sahibi olaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 ve sorumluluklar\u0131n\u0131n artaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 bilir ama ne bedeni ne ruhsal b\u00fcnyesi bunun i\u00e7in bir sinyal \u00fcretmiyordur.Bu noktada baba aday\u0131n\u0131n ve baban\u0131n tek rehberi kendi bilin\u00e7 d\u0131\u015f\u0131nda baba i\u015flevini temsil eden imgedir. Baba olmak her\u015feyden \u00f6nce bu imgeyle \u00f6zde\u015fle\u015fmekten ge\u00e7er, daha \u00f6nce kendi babas\u0131na atfetti\u011fi g\u00fc\u00e7, kudret ve di\u011fer \u00f6zellikleri kendisinde bulmay\u0131 gerektirir. Bu ayn\u0131 zamanda bir zamanlar k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck bir o\u011flan \u00e7ocu\u011fu olan baban\u0131n kendi babas\u0131yla olan rekabetini sonland\u0131rmas\u0131, olumsuz duygular\u0131n olumluya d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015fmesidir.Bebek a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131ndan bak\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131nda ise baba her \u015feyden \u00f6nce annesi ve kendisi ile s\u0131n\u0131rl\u0131 iki ki\u015filik d\u00fcnyan\u0131n sonu ve s\u0131n\u0131r\u0131d\u0131r. Bebek i\u00e7in annesi ve kendisi d\u0131\u015f\u0131nda bir d\u0131\u015f d\u00fcnya oldu\u011funun ilk kan\u0131t\u0131 babas\u0131d\u0131r. Bu kan\u0131t sayesinde d\u0131\u015f d\u00fcnya ile ilgilenme, ke\u015ffetme, tan\u0131ma f\u0131rsat\u0131 bulur ve ruhsal olarak b\u00fcy\u00fcme bu sayede ger\u00e7ekle\u015fir.Baban\u0131n Anne-Bebek \u0130li\u015fkisine EtkisiAnne bebek ikilisi a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131ndan bakt\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zda ise baba bu ili\u015fkinin sigortas\u0131 gibidir. Anne bebek ili\u015fkisi \u00e7ok yo\u011fun duygular \u00fczerine kuruludur. Bu duygular zaman zaman anne i\u00e7in yak\u0131c\u0131 olabildi\u011fi gibi zaman zaman da bebek i\u00e7in yak\u0131c\u0131d\u0131r. Annenin bebe\u011fe olan s\u0131n\u0131rs\u0131z ve kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131ks\u0131z sevgisi ve d\u00fc\u015fk\u00fcnl\u00fc\u011f\u00fc bazen bebe\u011fin ya\u015famak ve b\u00fcy\u00fcmek i\u00e7in hi\u00e7bir \u015fey yapmas\u0131n\u0131 gerektirmez. Bu durumda bebek b\u00fcy\u00fcmek ve geli\u015fmek i\u00e7in arzu duymaz, anneden ba\u011f\u0131ms\u0131zla\u015fmak son derece kayg\u0131 verici bir hal almaya ba\u015flar. Erken d\u00f6nem \u00e7ocukluk patolojilerinin \u00e7o\u011funda ortak neden bu yak\u0131c\u0131 ili\u015fki, ba\u011f\u0131ms\u0131zla\u015fma ve mesafe alman\u0131n olamay\u0131\u015f\u0131d\u0131r.Baba bu ili\u015fkideki gerilimin sigortas\u0131d\u0131r. Anne bebek ikilisinin aras\u0131na girebilecek ve ba\u011f\u0131ms\u0131zla\u015fmay\u0131 sa\u011flayabilecek g\u00fc\u00e7te olan yegane insand\u0131r. \u0130ngiliz psikanalist D.W.Winnicott bunu &#8220;Annenin bebe\u011fine kar\u015f\u0131 besledi\u011fi doymak bilmez i\u015ftah\u0131na g\u00f6z kulak olmak baban\u0131n g\u00f6revidir.&#8221; c\u00fcmlesiyle a\u00e7\u0131k\u00e7a ifade eder.Hayat\u0131n hemen ba\u015flang\u0131c\u0131nda bebe\u011fin ruhsal d\u00fcnyas\u0131nda ba\u011f\u0131ms\u0131zla\u015fmay\u0131 ve anneden mesafe almay\u0131 sa\u011flayan baba, 3 ya\u015f civar\u0131nda \u00e7ocu\u011fun d\u0131\u015f d\u00fcnyan\u0131n kurallar\u0131 ile tan\u0131\u015fmas\u0131n\u0131 sa\u011flayan rol\u00fcne b\u00fcr\u00fcn\u00fcr. \u00c7ocu\u011fun ruhsal d\u00fcnyas\u0131nda yasay\u0131 ve kurallar\u0131 temsil eden, ceza ve \u00f6d\u00fcl\u00fcn kayna\u011f\u0131 ve sahibi baba imgesidir. Baba hem korkulan, k\u0131z\u0131lan hem de \u00f6rnek al\u0131nan ve g\u00fczel bir gelecek, ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 bir hayat vaadi verendir \u00e7ocuk i\u00e7in.Daha \u00f6nce annelik i\u015flevleri ve anne bebek ili\u015fkisi ile ilgili yazd\u0131klar\u0131mda belirtti\u011fim gibi anne bebek ili\u015fkisi bebe\u011fin geli\u015fme ve b\u00fcy\u00fcmesinin ilk ve en \u00f6nemli yak\u0131t\u0131d\u0131r. Baban\u0131n birinci i\u015flevi bu yak\u0131t\u0131n ne az ne \u00e7ok, ne so\u011fuk ne fazla s\u0131cak olmas\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6nlemek, onun biren ve \u00e7ok yanarak tehlikeli hale gelmesini \u00f6nlemektir. \u0130kinci ve hayat boyu devam eden i\u015flevi ise bu b\u00fcy\u00fcme ve geli\u015fmenin yol haritas\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7izmek, uyulmas\u0131 gereken kurallar\u0131 ve gidilmesi gereken hedefleri g\u00f6stermektir. Bu y\u00fczden baban\u0131n fiziksel olarak yoklu\u011fu de\u011fil ama ruhsal olarak yoklu\u011fu uzakl\u0131\u011f\u0131 hi\u00e7bir r\u00fczgardan faydalanma \u015fans\u0131 olmayan \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc nereye gidece\u011fini bilmeyen \u00e7ocuklar ve gen\u00e7ler yarat\u0131r.Ne mutlu \u015fimdi ve burada \u00e7ocu\u011fu i\u00e7in var olmay\u0131 ba\u015faran babalara ve onlar\u0131n evlatlar\u0131na!\u0130lk Yay\u0131n Tarihi: 24 Haziran 2015 @ 17:24"},{"@context":"http:\/\/schema.org\/","@type":"BreadcrumbList","itemListElement":[{"@type":"ListItem","position":1,"item":{"@id":"https:\/\/sevgilibebek.com\/#breadcrumbitem","name":"Sevgili Bebek"}},{"@type":"ListItem","position":2,"item":{"@id":"https:\/\/sevgilibebek.com\/bebegin-ruhsal-dunyasinda-babanin-islevi\/#breadcrumbitem","name":"Bebe\u011fin Ruhsal D\u00fcnyas\u0131nda Baban\u0131n \u0130\u015flevi"}}]}]