[{"@context":"http:\/\/schema.org\/","@type":"Article","@id":"https:\/\/sevgilibebek.com\/ask-kapiyi-caldiginda\/#Article","mainEntityOfPage":"https:\/\/sevgilibebek.com\/ask-kapiyi-caldiginda\/","headline":"A\u015fk Kap\u0131y\u0131 \u00c7ald\u0131\u011f\u0131nda","name":"A\u015fk Kap\u0131y\u0131 \u00c7ald\u0131\u011f\u0131nda","description":"G\u00f6z bebe\u011fimiz, yavrumuz, herkesten ve her \u015feyden sak\u0131nd\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z \u00e7ocu\u011fumuz, bir g\u00fcn kar\u015f\u0131m\u0131za ge\u00e7ip \u2018Anne ben a\u015f\u0131k oldum\u2019 derse ne d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcrs\u00fcn\u00fcz? 4-5 ya\u015flar\u0131nda ufak bir k\u0131z yada erkek \u00e7ocu\u011funu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnelim. Kre\u015fte bir arkada\u015f\u0131na a\u015f\u0131k olmu\u015f, s\u00fcrekli<a class=\"moretag\" href=\"https:\/\/sevgilibebek.com\/ask-kapiyi-caldiginda\/\"> Devam\u0131n\u0131 oku&hellip;<\/a>","datePublished":"2023-11-08","dateModified":"2023-11-08","author":{"@type":"Person","@id":"https:\/\/sevgilibebek.com\/author\/3\/#Person","name":"Sevgili Bebek","url":"https:\/\/sevgilibebek.com\/author\/3\/","image":{"@type":"ImageObject","@id":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/2916d3a243921c20e926d04a237431c8?s=96&d=mm&r=g","url":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/2916d3a243921c20e926d04a237431c8?s=96&d=mm&r=g","height":96,"width":96}},"publisher":{"@type":"Organization","name":"Sevgili Bebek","logo":{"@type":"ImageObject","@id":"https:\/\/sevgilibebek.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/06\/cropped-sbikon.jpg","url":"https:\/\/sevgilibebek.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/06\/cropped-sbikon.jpg","width":600,"height":60}},"image":{"@type":"ImageObject","@id":"https:\/\/sevgilibebek.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/06\/ask-kapiyi-caldiginda.jpg","url":"https:\/\/sevgilibebek.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/06\/ask-kapiyi-caldiginda.jpg","height":450,"width":665},"url":"https:\/\/sevgilibebek.com\/ask-kapiyi-caldiginda\/","about":["Zihinsel &amp; Ruhsal Geli\u015fim"],"wordCount":818,"keywords":["\u00e7ocu\u011fum a\u015f\u0131k","\u00e7ocuklar a\u015f\u0131k olur mu","\u00e7ocuklar ve a\u015fk","\u00e7ocukluk a\u015fk\u0131"],"articleBody":"G\u00f6z bebe\u011fimiz, yavrumuz, herkesten ve her \u015feyden sak\u0131nd\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z \u00e7ocu\u011fumuz, bir g\u00fcn kar\u015f\u0131m\u0131za ge\u00e7ip \u2018Anne ben a\u015f\u0131k oldum\u2019 derse ne d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcrs\u00fcn\u00fcz?4-5 ya\u015flar\u0131nda ufak bir k\u0131z yada erkek \u00e7ocu\u011funu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnelim. Kre\u015fte bir arkada\u015f\u0131na a\u015f\u0131k olmu\u015f, s\u00fcrekli onun pe\u015finde, sadece onunla oynamak istiyor, onu ba\u015fkalar\u0131yla payla\u015fmak istemiyor, onu \u00f6pmek istiyor, \u2018Ben a\u015f\u0131k oldum\u2019 diyor. Zor bir durum ve mutlaka hepimizin ba\u015f\u0131na bir g\u00fcn gelecek bir konu.\u00c7ocuklar a\u015f\u0131k olur mu? diye sorarsak \u00e7o\u011fu ki\u015fi \u2018Elbette hay\u0131r\u2019 cevab\u0131n\u0131 verir. Ama ge\u00e7mi\u015fe bak\u0131p d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm\u00fczde, y\u00fcz\u00fcm\u00fcz\u00fc g\u00fcld\u00fcren ilk a\u015fk\u0131m\u0131z da akl\u0131m\u0131za gelir. \u00c7ocukluk a\u015fk\u0131, ilk a\u015fk\u2026\u00a0\u00c7ocu\u011fumuz a\u015f\u0131k oldu\u011funu s\u00f6yleyerek kar\u015f\u0131m\u0131za geldi\u011finde verece\u011fimiz tepkinin ne kadar \u00f6nemli oldu\u011funun fark\u0131nda m\u0131y\u0131z peki? Bizim tepkimiz \u00e7ocu\u011fun gelecekte a\u015fk hakk\u0131nda d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelerinden, her t\u00fcrl\u00fc duygusunu ifade etme bi\u00e7imine kadar onu etkiler. Yanl\u0131\u015f tepki vermemizin sonucu, \u00e7ocuk duygular\u0131n\u0131 payla\u015famayan, sevdi\u011fini s\u00f6yleyemeyen, i\u00e7ine kapan\u0131k bir birey de olabilir.\u00d6ncelikle \u00e7ocu\u011fun bahsetti\u011fi \u2018a\u015fk\u2019 kavram\u0131n\u0131n \u00fczerinde durmak gerekir. Bir \u00e7ocuk a\u015f\u0131k oldum dedi\u011finde, burada bahsetti\u011fi a\u015fk, biz yeti\u015fkinlerin hissetti\u011fi duygulardan \u00e7ok farkl\u0131d\u0131r. Buradaki a\u015fk, a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 be\u011fenme, al\u0131\u015fma, ayr\u0131 kalmay\u0131 istememe durumudur. Bunun ad\u0131na \u00e7ocuk a\u015fk der, \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc izledi\u011fi \u00e7izgi film ve filmler, anne ve babas\u0131ndan g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fc, g\u00f6zlemledi\u011fi kadar\u0131yla bu a\u015fkt\u0131r.\u00c7ocu\u011fun ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 bu durumun onun geli\u015fimi i\u00e7in normal ve gerekli oldu\u011funu bilmeniz gerekir. Bunun i\u00e7in a\u015f\u0131k olan \u00e7ocu\u011funuzla alay etmeniz, a\u015fk\u0131n\u0131 k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fcmsemeniz yada k\u0131zman\u0131z, a\u015f\u0131k oldu\u011fu \u00e7ocukla ileti\u015fimini kesmeniz, yapabilece\u011finiz en yanl\u0131\u015f davran\u0131\u015f olur.Do\u011fru olan davran\u0131\u015f \u00e7ocu\u011fu dinlemeniz, ama ger\u00e7ekten dinlemeniz. Ard\u0131ndan \u2018Ben o \u00e7ocu\u011fu g\u00f6rm\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcm evet ger\u00e7ekten iyi bir \u00e7ocuk\u2019 gibi s\u00f6zlerle \u00f6ncelikle onu anlad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 belirtmelisiniz. B\u00f6ylece \u00e7ocu\u011funuz \u00e7ekinmeden hislerini sizinle payla\u015fabilir. Sonra, d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncesi \u00fczerinde d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmesini sa\u011flamal\u0131s\u0131n\u0131z. \u00d6rne\u011fin \u2018Peki sence a\u015fk nedir\u2019 gibi sorular sorabilirsiniz. B\u00f6ylece \u00e7ocuk hissetti\u011finin a\u015fk m\u0131, yoksa ba\u011fl\u0131l\u0131k m\u0131 ya da arkada\u015fl\u0131k m\u0131 oldu\u011fu \u00fczerinde d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnebilir. \u00c7ocu\u011fun bir arkada\u015flar\u0131yla di\u011ferlerinden daha \u00e7ok anla\u015fmas\u0131n\u0131n, oyun oynamaktan daha fazla ho\u015flanmas\u0131n\u0131n normal oldu\u011funu belirtebilirsiniz.Tabi bir de a\u015fk\u0131n tek tarafl\u0131 oldu\u011fu durum var ki bu en k\u00f6t\u00fcs\u00fc. K\u0131z\u0131n\u0131z veya o\u011flunuz a\u015fk\u0131n\u0131n kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 alam\u0131yor, a\u015f\u0131k oldu\u011fu \u00e7ocu\u011fun s\u00fcrekli pe\u015finde geziniyor, onu s\u0131k\u0131\u015ft\u0131r\u0131p \u00f6pmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131yor da olabilir. Burada da yapman\u0131z gereken \u00e7ocu\u011funuzun arkada\u015f\u0131yla empati yapmas\u0131n\u0131 sa\u011flamak. Yani \u00f6p\u00fclmek istemedi\u011fi birisi onu \u00f6pt\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnde ne hissetti\u011fini yada istemedi\u011fi bir arkada\u015f\u0131n\u0131n s\u00fcrekli onunla oynamak istedi\u011finde ne kadar s\u0131k\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 konu\u015fman\u0131z, \u00e7ocu\u011fun a\u015f\u0131k oldu\u011fu \u00e7ocuk a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131ndan da olay\u0131 g\u00f6rebilmesini kolayla\u015ft\u0131r\u0131r.\u00c7ocu\u011funuzun hislerini sizinle her zaman payla\u015fabilece\u011fi bir ortam yaratmal\u0131s\u0131n\u0131z, ancak \u00e7ocuk e\u011fer bu konu hakk\u0131nda konu\u015fmak istemiyorsa da \u00fczerine d\u00fc\u015fmemelisiniz. Ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n yan\u0131nda onun i\u00e7in \u00f6zel olan bu konuyu konu\u015fmamal\u0131s\u0131n\u0131z. Unutmamal\u0131s\u0131n\u0131z ki, \u00e7ocukluk a\u015fklar\u0131 ne kadar i\u00e7ten ve saf olurlarsa olsun, bir d\u00f6nem sonra sona erer. Bu d\u00f6nemi \u00e7ocu\u011funuza trajedi ya\u015fatmadan ge\u00e7irmeniz \u00f6nemli olan.\u00c7ocuklar i\u00e7in her \u015feyde oldu\u011fu gibi a\u015fk da ke\u015ffedilecek yeni bir deneyimdir. Bu deneyimi zarar g\u00f6rmeden ya\u015fayabilmesi i\u00e7in anne babalar olarak onu dinlemeli, yol g\u00f6stermeli ve gerekti\u011finde do\u011fru y\u00f6ne y\u00f6nlendirmeliyiz.&nbsp;\u0130lk Yay\u0131n Tarihi: 26 Nisan 2017 @ 03:03"},{"@context":"http:\/\/schema.org\/","@type":"BreadcrumbList","itemListElement":[{"@type":"ListItem","position":1,"item":{"@id":"https:\/\/sevgilibebek.com\/#breadcrumbitem","name":"Sevgili Bebek"}},{"@type":"ListItem","position":2,"item":{"@id":"https:\/\/sevgilibebek.com\/ask-kapiyi-caldiginda\/#breadcrumbitem","name":"A\u015fk Kap\u0131y\u0131 \u00c7ald\u0131\u011f\u0131nda"}}]}]