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Bu makalede, kad\u0131n\u0131n anneli\u011fe ge\u00e7i\u015f s\u00fcrecinde, \u2018kad\u0131nl\u0131k\u2019 ve Devam\u0131n\u0131 oku…<\/a>","datePublished":"2021-02-26","dateModified":"2021-02-26","author":{"@type":"Person","@id":"https:\/\/sevgilibebek.com\/author\/ayseyanik\/#Person","name":"Uzman Psikolog Ay\u015fe Yan\u0131k","url":"https:\/\/sevgilibebek.com\/author\/ayseyanik\/","image":{"@type":"ImageObject","@id":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/6b6b274e6c53e96e518d5ad8ba4ddd21?s=96&d=mm&r=g","url":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/6b6b274e6c53e96e518d5ad8ba4ddd21?s=96&d=mm&r=g","height":96,"width":96}},"publisher":{"@type":"Organization","name":"Sevgili Bebek","logo":{"@type":"ImageObject","@id":"https:\/\/sevgilibebek.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/06\/cropped-sbikon.jpg","url":"https:\/\/sevgilibebek.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/06\/cropped-sbikon.jpg","width":600,"height":60}},"image":{"@type":"ImageObject","@id":"https:\/\/sevgilibebek.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/11\/annek\u0131zili\u015fkileri\u00fczerindennesilleraras\u0131cinsiyetaktar\u0131m\u0131.jpg","url":"https:\/\/sevgilibebek.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/11\/annek\u0131zili\u015fkileri\u00fczerindennesilleraras\u0131cinsiyetaktar\u0131m\u0131.jpg","height":590,"width":1000},"url":"https:\/\/sevgilibebek.com\/anne-kiz-iliskileri-uzerinden-nesiller-arasi-cinsiyet-aktarimi\/","about":["Zihinsel & Ruhsal Geli\u015fim"],"wordCount":690,"keywords":["anne k\u0131z","anne k\u0131z ili\u015fkisi","\u00c7ocuk Geli\u015fimi","\u00c7ocuk Psikolojisi"],"articleBody":"Kad\u0131nl\u0131k ve annelik kavramlar\u0131na tarihte, mitolojide, edebiyatta (roman kahramanlar\u0131) s\u0131kl\u0131kla yer verildi\u011fini ve psikolojide pek \u00e7ok kuramda farkl\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131lardan ele al\u0131narak klinik deneyimlerle a\u00e7\u0131klanmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131lm\u0131\u015f oldu\u011funu g\u00f6r\u00fcyoruz.Bu makalede, kad\u0131n\u0131n anneli\u011fe ge\u00e7i\u015f s\u00fcrecinde, \u2018kad\u0131nl\u0131k\u2019 ve \u2018annelik\u2019 kavramlar\u0131 aras\u0131ndaki k\u00f6pr\u00fcy\u00fc sa\u011flamla\u015ft\u0131r\u0131p bunu gelecek ku\u015fa\u011fa (yani k\u0131z\u0131na) aktar\u0131m\u0131 ve bu s\u00fcre\u00e7te ya\u015fananlar anne \u2013 k\u0131z ili\u015fkisi ba\u011flam\u0131nda \u00fc\u00e7 ku\u015fak \u00fczerinden ele al\u0131nm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r.Anneden k\u0131z\u0131na kad\u0131nl\u0131\u011f\u0131n iletimini anlamaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131rken her \u015feyden \u00f6nce \u2018kad\u0131nl\u0131k\u2019 olgusunun anla\u015f\u0131lmas\u0131, k\u0131z \u00e7ocu\u011fun anneyle kurdu\u011fu ilk ili\u015fki, \u00e7ocukluk ve ergenlik d\u00f6neminde ya\u015fanan \u00e7at\u0131\u015fmalar, annenin kendi kad\u0131nl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131n fark\u0131nda olmas\u0131 ve akabinde k\u0131z\u0131yla kurdu\u011fu \u00e7at\u0131\u015fmadan ar\u0131nm\u0131\u015f bir \u00f6zde\u015fle\u015fme sonucu bu iletimin ger\u00e7ekle\u015fmesi ve t\u00fcm bunlar\u0131n alt\u0131nda yatan dinamiklerin etkilerinin bilinmesi gerekti\u011fi kan\u0131s\u0131nday\u0131m.K\u0131z \u00e7ocu\u011fun ilk nesnesi annedir (ve anne memesi), dolay\u0131s\u0131yla bu ilk nesneyle kurdu\u011fu ili\u015fkiye y\u00fckledi\u011fi bilin\u00e7d\u0131\u015f\u0131 anlam\u0131 (iyi \u2013 k\u00f6t\u00fc) ya\u015fam\u0131n\u0131n geri kalan b\u00f6l\u00fcm\u00fcnde farkl\u0131 nesnelerle kurdu\u011fu ili\u015fkilerde yeniden bulur. Bu anlam ileride k\u0131z \u00e7ocu\u011fun hem bireysel, hem de toplumsal hayatta izlerini ta\u015f\u0131yacakt\u0131r (cinsel doyum, evlenme, annelik, toplumsal roller, ki\u015fileraras\u0131 ili\u015fkiler vb). Gelece\u011fin kad\u0131n\u0131 olan bu k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck k\u0131z i\u00e7in anne ilk a\u015fk nesnesi olmas\u0131n\u0131n yan\u0131nda ayn\u0131 zamanda onun i\u00e7in bir rakiptir de. Ayn\u0131 fizyolojik \u00f6zelliklere sahip olmalar\u0131, onlar\u0131n ili\u015fkilerini anne-o\u011ful ili\u015fkisine k\u0131yasla daha karma\u015f\u0131k ve \u00e7at\u0131\u015fmal\u0131 k\u0131lar.Bu noktada \u00e7ocu\u011fun annesine ya\u015fam\u0131n\u0131n ilk d\u00f6nemlerinde yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131 yat\u0131r\u0131m (kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131kl\u0131 olarak) kad\u0131ns\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n alt yap\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 olu\u015fturmas\u0131 bak\u0131m\u0131ndan olduk\u00e7a \u00f6nemlidir.K\u0131z \u00e7ocu\u011fun cinsel geli\u015fiminin sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 bir temele oturtulabilmesi i\u00e7in hem ilk nesne olan anneden ayr\u0131\u015fmas\u0131, hem de kad\u0131nl\u0131\u011fa giden yolda ilk ad\u0131m\u0131 atmas\u0131 ad\u0131na anneyle \u00f6zde\u015fle\u015fmesi gerekmektedir. Bu s\u00fcre\u00e7te \u00e7ocu\u011fun ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 ikircikli duygular, d\u00f6nemin sanc\u0131l\u0131 bir \u015fekilde ge\u00e7irilmesine (veya tak\u0131l\u0131 kalmas\u0131na) yol a\u00e7ar.\u00c7ocu\u011fun okul \u00f6ncesi d\u00f6nemde ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 \u00e7at\u0131\u015fmal\u0131 durum ise bu s\u00fcre\u00e7te a\u015f\u0131lmas\u0131 gereken ikinci engel olarak kar\u015f\u0131m\u0131za \u00e7\u0131kar. Burada esas nokta, k\u0131z \u00e7ocu\u011fun bilin\u00e7d\u0131\u015f\u0131nda erkekten farkl\u0131 bir cinsel organa sahip oldu\u011funu fark etme ve bunu bir eksiklik olarak alg\u0131lama konusudur. Penis eksikli\u011finden dolay\u0131 anneyi sorumlu tutan \u00e7ocuk onunla \u00f6zde\u015fim kurmaya diren\u00e7 g\u00f6sterebilir. Bu diren\u00e7 yeti\u015fkinlik ya\u015fam\u0131na ta\u015f\u0131nd\u0131\u011f\u0131 takdirde k\u0131z \u00e7ocuk annesine benzemeyen bir kimlik geli\u015ftirme e\u011filimi sergileyebilir. \u00d6rne\u011fin annesi gibi (kad\u0131nl\u0131\u011fa \u00f6zg\u00fc) giyinmeyebilir, makyaj yapmayabilir (ya da anneye duydu\u011fu hasetten dolay\u0131 ondan geleni kabul etmeyebilir).Yine bu \u00e7at\u0131\u015fmal\u0131 d\u00f6nemde k\u0131z \u00e7ocuk annesinden \u00e7ok korkarsa , babaya y\u00f6nelip ona yeterince g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc bir \u015fekilde ba\u011flanamaz. Dolay\u0131s\u0131yla i\u00e7sel \u00e7at\u0131\u015fma su y\u00fcz\u00fcne \u00e7\u0131kmad\u0131\u011f\u0131ndan dolay\u0131 \u00e7ocuk duygular\u0131n\u0131\/gereksinimlerini ifade edemez ve annede tak\u0131l\u0131 kal\u0131r.Bu evreyi sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 bir \u015fekilde ge\u00e7irebilmek i\u00e7in anneden babaya nesne de\u011fi\u015fiminin gerekli\u011fi kilit bir nokta olarak kar\u015f\u0131m\u0131za \u00e7\u0131kmaktad\u0131r. Anne k\u0131z\u0131n\u0131n bu \u00e7at\u0131\u015fmal\u0131 d\u00f6neminin \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fcnde ona destek olmal\u0131, ileriye d\u00f6n\u00fck k\u0131z\u0131n\u0131n i\u00e7indeki \u2018cinselli\u011fini kazanm\u0131\u015f kad\u0131n\u2019\u0131 kabullenmelidir. Bu, kad\u0131nl\u0131\u011fa giden yolda \u00f6nemli bir noktad\u0131r. Bu yaz\u0131 www.ayseyanik.com adrasinden al\u0131nm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r.\u0130lk Yay\u0131n Tarihi: 3 Kas\u0131m 2017 @ 22:08"},{"@context":"http:\/\/schema.org\/","@type":"BreadcrumbList","itemListElement":[{"@type":"ListItem","position":1,"item":{"@id":"https:\/\/sevgilibebek.com\/#breadcrumbitem","name":"Sevgili Bebek"}},{"@type":"ListItem","position":2,"item":{"@id":"https:\/\/sevgilibebek.com\/anne-kiz-iliskileri-uzerinden-nesiller-arasi-cinsiyet-aktarimi\/#breadcrumbitem","name":"Anne K\u0131z \u0130li\u015fkileri \u00dczerinden Nesiller Aras\u0131 Cinsiyet Aktar\u0131m\u0131 – 1"}}]}]